If you’re single and over fifty don’t worry, you’re not alone. We never lose our desire to be loved and if you’re looking for love over fifty, you have a lot of company.
The reality is that 45% of adults over 18 are single. Pretty stunning isn’t it? (2015 US Census)
No wonder there’s so many dating sites for finding a new partner! Online dating is one way to find someone new but what are the alternatives if you’re tired of feeling a little bit lonely?
First Steps to Finding Love Over Fifty
- If you’re newly single, consider taking the time to get comfortable being alone. If being alone scares you, you may end up choosing a partner for the wrong reasons. Let’s face it, no one wants to have to keep starting over. Take the time you need to feel happy on your own before you try finding love again. In fact fall a little in love with yourself and you’ll be happy AND irresistible.
- Learn to be comfortable doing things on your own and with friends. If you can get over the idea that you’re not complete without a partner, you may start enjoying being single! I believe that until we’re happy with our own company, we’re not really ready to match up with someone new. You’re not looking to be completed by someone new (sorry Renee) you’re looking for someone who complements you.
- Although it’s tempting to try and get over an unhappy breakup or death of a partner with someone new, take time to figure out what you really want in a new partner. Finding love after divorce is your chance to take stock of what needs you have that weren’t met in your marriage. Think about what the character and values of your “perfect partner” would look like. What are the deal breakers?
- When you’re really ready to get out there to meet someone new you’ll know it. As someone who has used dating sites in the past, I feel well qualified to say online dating does potentially give you lots of choices. Are they the right choices for you? Only you know the answer. Be wary of hooking up too quickly. Meet in person and decide if your gut feeling says YES or NO to allowing this new person into your life.
- Ultimately I met my beau through a friend and not a dating site. Sometimes a personal connection works for the best. If your friends and family don’t already know you’re interested in meeting someone, tell them! Discreetly get the word out you’re available for someone awesome.
When You’re Ready for Love Over Fifty:
- If your circle of buddies doesn’t turn up anyone that floats your boat, the next step is a dating site. I recommend using those that are appropriate and safe for over fifties looking for love or companionship. In my opinion you can’t go wrong with Match.com. The largest, it also has the most engagement of any site I tried. When folks sign up with a credit card, they are more apt to be seriously looking, rather than casually dipping into the pool.
- If you have a wide circle of friends, be grateful. Finding love amongst old friends is less of a leap than meeting someone entirely new. Be open to sharing your thoughts and ideas, you never know. What you say may resonate and create a spark. I met my partner through my ex husband’s ex brother in law!
- MeetMindful is a new site with the goal of offering a more spiritual and mindful platform for you to meet someone with similar interests. Haven’t tried it, but would love to know if it works for you.
- If you’re not quite ready to dive into the dating deep end, I’d suggest Meetup.com. It’s easy to find a group to hang out with to share your interests with. Sports, hiking, dancing, technology or over 50s who want to mingle are just a few of your choices. Joining a group where you can choose how and when you want to participate is a great way to ease into hanging out with the opposite sex again. Much less pressure than a one on one date.
My advice is be careful and selective. You might easily meet someone who’s a good match, but you’ll need to be ruthless about screening the ones who aren’t. Use your good judgement and intuition.
Your goal isn’t to find someone fast, but to find someone to last.
There are plenty of fish in the sea. Realize you’re the one who’s the catch and don’t settle for less than you deserve! Wishing you all the best in finding a new love over fifty sweetie. Need an extra boost? Try manifesting the love you want.
