When you’re alone you might think of all the ways you’d be happier if you had some company. But as a die hard introvert, I can tell you I sometimes feel the opposite. When I’ve had enough company, I can secretly lust after some solid me time, but I know I may be in the minority.
I wrote about being suddenly single at midlife through no choice of your own. Being on your own can be a complete whammy to your sense of self, leading to those “what now” or “who am I” introspections.
Being alone isn’t always easy and it’s not really in our DNA. Growing up as a woman we’re expected to always be available to others as wives or moms.
But when were we supposed to learn how to be alone? Hmmph that one was never explained very well was it. No one taught us how to manage without a wife or a mom role to play. Let’s face it, by choice or circumstance we can end up alone and we need to find a way to make it work, don’t we?
If we want to be fabulous and hip over fifty let’s get down with this. Let’s celebrate and appreciate our own company and heck yeah, enjoy it!
Enough ado, on with the list!
Here’s 8 things I actually think are better experienced when you’re alone.
- Eating ice cream.
Let’s face it. You need full concentration when you’re attacking a cone or a bowl of luscious creamy icy perfection. Staying on top of those drips and savoring your favorite flavor requires complete attention. I’m happy to share most treats, but ice cream? No. Way.
Getting into your headspace requires quiet, lack of interruption and focus right? Maybe some can zone out in an airport terminal, but the rest of us need to be alone to achieve full mindfulness. Immersing ourselves in our bliss is best achieved without distractions.
- Reading a book
Now there may be some kooks out there who like to read aloud, but frankly that fits better with bedtime stories than a juicy page turner. If you try to read Fifty Shades out loud to your partner, you both may end up rolling on the floor laughing. Being alone with your book is essential to truly savor a delicious passage.
- Binge watching
This one is relative. If your honey and you are both Broadchurch fans (ahem) then of course it’s fun to watch and discuss together. BUT to truly deep dive into a mood and feel zero guilt at how many hours on the couch you’ve burned up watching Victoria or The Crown; alone is the only way to roll.
- Taking a bath
How many times has Hollywood shown bathing together in a tub as a naughty prelude? That may be fun once or twice but tell the truth. Who wants to share their hot water and bubbles? You’re the only one who gets to decide how long you stay in the tub. Soaking alone is a meditative experience and self care at it’s finest.
OK I know there’s many of you out there who love to have a “what do you think of this one” buddy to chew over the fit and style of a new pair of jeans. If you have one of those trusted besties, then go for it. But if you don’t, shopping solo is the way to go. No distractions, no one imposing their style preferences on you. You know I’m right.
- Working out
Here’s another activity that can easily be shared with a workout partner when you need the extra motivation. Working out solo gives you more control though. If you’re not the competitive type, your own workout will be based on what you want to accomplish, not on who gets it done first or best.
- Going to the movies
I’ve lost count of the number of movies I’ve seen on my own. With the exception of one freaky experience at an afternoon show (remind me to tell you later) I find it therapeutic. You can’t really talk during the movies anymore so why not pick a chick flick you want to see and just GO? Get lost or inspired for a couple of hours.
When you’re alone it’s the perfect way to tune in to what you love. As women we’re always trying to please others. “ME time” is the perfect time for taking care of ourselves.
What do you like doing on your own?